We know that there is no condemnation to us who are in Christ Jesus. So why do we often feel condemned and judged and worry about approaching Christ for forgiveness. We also extend our inward condemnation to others due to the guilt that we ourselves experience because of our failures.
The bible exhorts us to constantly pray for each other as believers. (Ephesians 6:18) So as we pray we resist the desire to condemn and criticise. Oftentimes we use the excuse of being honest and having the need to vent. Our reminder should be about the power in our words and the life and death that exists in our tongue. (Proverbs 18:21)
And since we are convinced of the life giving power within our mouths, let us use our words to speak life, and call those things which be not as though they were.” (Romans 4:17) This principle is not living in denial and ignoring that challenges exists. Sometimes we do have to speak the truth in love in order to correct and edify. But we must always bear in mind the motivation behind our words and use our words to speak life.
A parent with a wayward child can complain about their child’s behaviour or confess the promises of God over them. Wives and husbands should look for the good in their spouses and speak of what God promises concerning them. If we truly recognise how much power is stored in our words we would not use them loosely. And we pray about each other’s weaknesses and trust God to complete the work in us and in others.