Above all else, guard your heart, for out of it are the issues of life. (Proverbs 4:23)
We cannot expect other people to be responsible for our emotional wellbeing. Even in a marriage it is a mistake to expect our spouse to be responsible to ‘make us happy.’ Happiness is an internal emotion that we have when we are at peace with ourselves. We have peace with ourselves when we have peace with God.
Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. (Romans 5:1) How can you have peace with God when you are being tested by others around you? How can you maintain peace when you are in an unhappy situation? When you are sure in your heart that you are in the will of God. And because you have walked in obedience, then you are sure that despite the challenges that there is a way out. You know that if God led you into a situation that his hand of protection guides and keeps you and he will help you through it.
We maintain emotional wellbeing by trusting in God who daily loads us with benefits. (Psalm 68:19) We have to trust in God to meet our need for companionship, comfort and friendship. He is a God who sticks closer than a brother and he cares more about our emotions than anyone else. In fact he comforts those who mourn, provides strength for fear, strengthens the weary and gives a garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness. (Matthew 5:4; Isaiah 61:3)
God wants us to have good and healthy marriages, friendships and relationships. God does not encourage unhealthy attachments where we place people on a pedestal and expect them to cater to our emotions. The danger with this is that we can leave people feeling emotionally exhausted from trying to fill empty voids. This can also engender obsessive patterns and dysfunctional relationships.
Trust in God to heal your broken and wounded emotions. Trust the work of the Holy Spirit to help us develop and maintain healthy and meaningful relationships. One which is mutually beneficial for those involved to prevent us being manipulated or cause us to manipulate others to meet unrealistic expectations.