Paul’s exhortation to the church in Ephesus was to remain alert and persistent in prayer. He encouraged us to pray for each other and to constantly lift each other up to God. I believe our relationships would be a lot better if we prayed about the things that we don’t like about each other rather than talk and complain about them.
Most marriages would be better if spouses prayed about the things they don’t like about each other. Constantly talking about what irritates us can translate into nagging, complaining or fault finding.
I believe that as we pray, God transforms the person that we pray for and he also does a work in us and offers grace to deal with the things that we pray about. And then our relationships will improve because if we care enough to pray then that is the best place to start. We have to guard against resentment and bitterness which can easily spring up even in the healthiest relationships. There are times when speaking the truth in love is helpful and a healthy way to improve relationships. At other times when talking does not seem to help, then it is time to pray.
Praying reduces anxieties and it helps us to surrender our cares to God with the recognition that we are powerless to change others. We pray and God will convict and transform us and the ones we pray for. God honours unity and he is invested in the health and vitality of our relationships but we have to go to him in prayer.