Paul reminded the Christians in the Hebrew church about the importance of marriage. He warned against adultery and sexual immorality as this would attract the judgement of God. I am generally surprised when someone tries to justify pursuing a relationship with a married person. The justification is often that, ‘maybe they married the wrong person.’ Why would anyone want to be the person to put another person’s marriage to the test? God is serious about his judgement against those who fail to respect other people’s marriages.
God created a system of marriage for men and women to help each other grow and develop. I believe in a marriage, our assignment is to help make each other better. God wants us to have companionship and created the marriage union as a means to bring order to society. “Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him”” (Genesis 2:18).
Ever wondered why children whose parents get divorced sometimes end up with emotional difficulties? God hates divorce and Jesus said in Matthew, “So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate”” (Matthew 19:6). I appreciate that there are instances when a marriage is no longer healthy due to abuse and persistent infidelity. It is never wise to advice a person to stay in a marriage where there is abuse. Infidelity is one of the occasions when God says that he permits couples to get a divorce. Some couples are able to work through challenges including infidelity with the help of a counsellor.
Either way, even healthy marriages experience seasons of challenges. God expects married people to put each other first above all else. This also includes parents and extended family. The survival of godly marriages, will depend on couples having the ability, to set and maintains healthy boundaries to protect the sanctity of their union.
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24).