There are many references in scripture to the importance of unity within the body of Christ. Jesus once mentioned that, “If a kingdom is divided against itself, that kingdom cannot stand” (Mark 3:24). As christians we represent the kingdom of God and are his ambassadors on earth. I believe that one of the weapons that the Devil uses against the church and among families is division and disunity. James said, “For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice” (James 3:16).
James also said that a harvest of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace. Peacemakers are considered blessed and we are cautioned as much as possible to live at peace with everyone (Romans 12:18). There are some instances when the only way to make peace is to go our separate ways. There are other times when we have to extend grace and try to make amends where possible. There are some things that we can accomplish on our own. However, there are many things that we can accomplish within a team or with the support of others.
There are situations in which we have to swallow our pride and apologise when we have acted inappropriately. Sometimes we may not even be the guilty party within a conflict. It is ok for us to be the bigger person and take the higher road in order to make peace. Solomon said, “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10).
Not all relationships are worth reconciling and at times reconciliation does not mean restoration. It is possible to forgive someone, pray for them and love them from a distance. We have to pray to ask God to show us those persons and relationships that are worth restoring. Some people are sent into our lives as destiny helpers and we cannot allow small conflicts to separate people with good intentions.