It is impossible to go through life without experiencing some kind of hurt or heartache. Some hurts are emotional or psychological and some wounds are surface level while others are deep seated. Some human beings are naturally more resilient than others, so it is hard to measure types of hurt and try to determine how it will affect people. Two people can go through the same experience and both respond to it differently. It is hard to tell what makes some people more resilient or to determine why some people are better able to cope.
Whatever the hurt, God is invested in mending and providing healing. I didn’t always understand that God cares about my emotions and I once felt that he was too busy to be bothered with my heartache. I later learnt that God also cares about the matters of our hearts and our emotional well-being. “The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit” (Psalm 34:18). Not only does God care about our heartache, but he is close to us when we are hurting.
It is sometimes the people that are close to us who cause us the most heartache. David said, “For it is not an enemy who taunts me— then I could bear it; it is not an adversary who deals insolently with me— then I could hide from him” (Psalm 55:12). In this passage David was lamenting about the betrayal of a friend who he used to confide in. We have to trust our emotions to God and trust God when we cannot trust other people. We learn the lesson, try to make better choices and try to be more selective when making decisions about significant relationships.
The best thing is to allow God to choose our friends and those people who he wants us to be close to. We have to also surrender our hurts to Jesus so that we do not become hardened as this can lead us to hurting others. God is not like people and a difficult relationship with a parent can affect our ability to trust God. God is a good father and even if our parents forsake us then the Lord will take care of us.
“For I will restore health to you, and your wounds I will heal, declares the Lord, because they have called you an outcast: ‘It is Zion, for whom no one cares’” (Jeremiah 30:17)!