Paul’s exhortation to the church in Ephesus was to remain alert and persistent in prayer. He encouraged them to pray for each other and to constantly lift each other up to God. I believe that our relationships would be a lot better, if we prayed about the things that we don’t like about each other, rather than talk and complain about them.
Most marriages would be better off, if spouses prayed about the things they don’t like about each other. Constantly talking about what irritates us can translate into nagging, complaining or fault finding.“Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much” (James 5:16).
I believe that as we pray, God transforms the person that we pray for and he also does a work in us and offers grace, to deal with the things that we pray about. Our relationships will then improve, because if we care enough to pray, then that is the best place to start. We have to guard against resentment and bitterness, which can easily spring up even in the healthiest relationships. There are times when speaking the truth in love, is helpful and a healthy way to improve relationships. At other times when talking does not seem to help, then it is time to pray.
Praying reduces anxiety and it helps us to surrender our cares to God, with the recognition that we are powerless to change others. We pray and God will convict and transform us and the ones we pray for. God honours unity and he is invested in the health and vitality of our relationships, but we have to go to him in prayer. “Pray without ceasing” (1 Thessalonians 5:17).