Psychologists believe that children need stability, consistency and unconditional positive regard in order to develop a positive sense of self. This centres around ideas of secure attachment and providing a secure base for children. Some parents do not have the skillset to provide positive and nurturing parenting for children. This can sometimes result in adults who experience feelings of insecurity and other difficult emotions. The good news is that our relationship with God, is able to restore what was lost or otherwise missing from significant relationships. David said, “When my father and my mother forsake me, Then the LORD will take me up” (Psalm 27:10).
When we become born again Christians, we are secure in the love that Jesus has for us. We know that God loves us with an everlasting love. He is not like earthly parents who sometimes don’t keep promises or live up to our expectations. In addition to having a father in heaven, we are also adopted into the family of God. “The Spirit itself beareth witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God” (Romans 8:16).
Our salvation makes us a part of a larger community of faith and our image reflects the likeness of God (Genesis 1:26). God did not make any mistakes when he created us and wants us to talk to him when we have trouble. “For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father” (Romans 8:15).
God is a good father who loves us and wants the very best for us. We can find security in knowing that from the day that we were born, that God watches over us. He even assigned an angel (escort) to guard and protect us because we are his prized possession. The sense of security that we need can only be found in relationship with God.
“He found him in a desert land, And in the waste howling wilderness; He led him about, he instructed him, He kept him as the apple of his eye” (Deuteronomy 32:10).