Solomon shared a lot of insight into family life and the home. We know his famous book about the virtuous woman in Proverbs 31. Most women describe themselves as a Proverbs 31 woman. Let us have a look at the core concepts in this chapter, in order to learn more from it. “Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies” (Proverbs 31:10). Solomon started by describing a woman of high moral standing, who was also quite capable. She is also a woman of value, as she is considered to be more precious than rubies.
Her husband has confidence in her and she adds great value to his life. She brings him good and not harm, she is industrious and she demonstrates good leadership skills. She has good money management skills and understands how to invest and increase her earning. “She is energetic and strong, a hard worker” (Proverbs 31:17). She uses her time well and has enough to help the poor. She does not fear hard times, because she makes provision for difficult seasons. Her husband is well known in their city of residence and he is a leader among men. She is an entrepreneur who produces items for sale.
“She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future”(Proverbs 31:25). She speaks words of wisdom and she instructs with kindness. She manages her home well and her children respect and honour her. Her husband offers words of praises to her; “There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all” (Proverbs 31:29)! This woman fears God above all else and her relationship with God is more important than her outward beauty.
These characteristics may seem daunting for most women and can appear unachievable. I don’t believe that a woman can achieve these attributes, without the grace of God and the help of the Holy Spirit. We anticipate that women will have godly, supportive and loving husbands, who will help them to be who God created them to be. I also believe that as women, we can set the tone for our homes and families. Prayer is the main foundation upon which homes are built. As we grow in God and develop Christlike characteristics, he will perfect his work in us.
“Reward her for all she has done. Let her deeds publicly declare her praise”(Proverbs 31:31).