We cannot expect other people to be responsible for our emotional wellbeing. Even in a marriage, it is a mistake to expect our spouse to be responsible to ‘make us happy.’ Happiness is an internal emotion that we have when we are at peace with ourselves. We have peace with ourselves when we have peace with God.
“Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ” (Romans 5:1). How can you have peace with God, when you are being tested by others around you? How can you maintain peace when you are in an unhappy situation? When you are sure in your heart that you are in the will of God, and you have walked in obedience, then you know that despite the challenges, that there is a way out. This is knowing that if God led you into a situation, that his hand of protection guides and keeps you and he will help you through it.
We maintain emotional wellbeing by trusting in God who daily loads us with benefits (Psalm 68:19). We have to trust in God to meet our need for companionship, comfort and friendship. He is a God who sticks closer than a brother and he cares more about our emotions than anyone else. In fact he comforts those who mourn, provides strength for fear, strengthens the weary and gives a garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness (Matthew 5:4; Isaiah 61:3).
God wants us to have good and healthy marriages, friendships and relationships. God does not encourage unhealthy attachments, where we place people on a pedestal and expect them to cater to our needs. The danger with this is that we can leave people feeling emotionally exhausted, from trying to fill empty voids. This can also engender obsessive patterns and dysfunctional relationships.
Trust in God to heal your broken and wounded emotions. Trust the work of the Holy Spirit to help you develop and maintain healthy and meaningful relationships. One which is mutually beneficial for those involved, to prevent us being manipulated or cause us to manipulate others to meet unrealistic expectations. “There are “friends” who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother”
(Proverbs 18:24).
A.P.-Y.
Devotional Inspirations 
We are to take our emotions to God as he will meet those needs. A very necessary and encouraging message.
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Amen 🙏🏾. Bless you
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EXCELLENT. So true, and no doubt this message touches us all in one way or another. Your last paragraph sums it up beautifully, but sadly I relate. Thank you Anneta.
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Amen 🙏🏾. Bless you Mary. This world is strange and difficult at times. Hidden in God we find protection and rest.
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Marriage is a tough one…particularly when you are a good wife making every attempt to be pleasing to your husband. You want to confirm that he has made the right and best choice. It’s so easy to place your husband, or wife on a pedestal, and yet not realize your doings. But God will not be second best…He is a jealous God and He will have no husbands, wives, nor children before him!! We often don’t realize that we’ve carved out our own little idols- made of flesh…do we??
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Yeah I understand. It’s when people go into marriages thinking that it will fix areas that are broken or make them happy. We have to find happiness within ourselves and we need two whole people to make a healthy union. Many people marry with unresolved issues which is never completely avoidable, but we have to commit to keep working on ourselves. That way we don’t set other people up with unreasonable expectations or want them to fill voids that only God can. Some expectations are reasonable like the expectation to be loved and appreciated. Pre-marital counselling is extremely important to discuss and explore expectations beforehand. Many of us expected it to be what it looks like on TV in sitcoms. Trouble is when it is no longer funny. Bless you. 🙏🏾❤️🥰
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Amen…Many of us expected it to be what it looks like on TV in sitcoms. Trouble is when it is no longer funny.” And again, AAMEN to That!! God Bless You, Anneta!! Thanks for a great marital counseling session😁
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🤣😁😂you are too funny.
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I like the way explained happiness that we get it when we are at peace with God and ourselves.
There are people who can be draining to be around because they want you to fill the void that only God can.
Sadly even immature believers who refuse to create a deep relationship with their God They end up seeking that from people around them and eventually drive good relationships out of their lives by their demands!
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Indeed. You understand and completely agree about people who are draining. They can suck the life out of people if given the opportunity. This is why we set boundaries and give only what we can and what feels reasonable at the time. People have to find God for themselves. Even in ministry, there are people who want you to go to God for them and pray away their problems. Every one of us have access to God and can approach him on our behalf. Some people are too lazy and want you to always pray for them. At times we support young Christians, but I don’t understand when mature Christians refuse to seek God for themselves. Bless you. 🙏🏾
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Bless you and thanks for sharing. 🙏🏾
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and such a lovely post sweetheart 🙂
I am glad I found your devotional inspirations ❤
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Bless you my dear. 🙏🏾
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