It is impossible to go through life, without experiencing some kind of hurt or heartache. Some hurts are emotional or psychological and while some wounds are surface level others are deep seated. Some human beings are said to be more resilient than others. If that is the case, it is hard to measure types of hurt and try to determine how it will affect people. Two people can go through the same experience and both respond to it differently. It is hard to tell what makes some people more resilient, or try to determine why some people are better able to cope than others.
Whatever the hurt, God is invested in mending and providing healing. I didn’t always understand that God cares about my emotions and I once felt that he was too busy to be bothered with my heartache. I later learnt that God also cares about the matters of our hearts and our emotional well-being. “The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit” (Psalm 34:18). Not only does God care about our heartache, but he is also close to us when we are hurting.
It is sometimes the people that are close to us who cause us the most heartache. David said, “For it is not an enemy who taunts me— then I could bear it; it is not an adversary who deals insolently with me— then I could hide from him” (Psalm 55:12). In this passage David was lamenting about the betrayal of a friend, who he used to confide in. We have to trust our emotions to God and trust Him when we cannot trust other people. We learn the lesson, try to make better choices and be more selective when making decisions about significant relationships.
The best thing is to allow God to choose our friends and those people who he wants us to be close to. We have to also surrender our hurts to Jesus, so that we do not become hardened, as this can lead us to hurting others. God is not like people and a difficult relationship with a parent can affect our ability to trust God, for example. God is a good father and even if our parents forsake us then the Lord will take care of us. Even if your mother and father forsake you, the Lord still cares for you.
“For I will restore health to you, and your wounds I will heal, declares the Lord, because they have called you an outcast: ‘It is Zion, for whom no one cares’” (Jeremiah 30:17)!