We know that there is no condemnation to us who are in Christ Jesus. Why do we often feel condemned and judged and worry about approaching Christ for forgiveness? We can also extend our inward condemnation to others, due to the guilt that we experience, because of our failures.
The bible exhorts us to pray constantly for each other as believers (Ephesians 6:18). As we pray, we resist the desire to condemn and criticise. Oftentimes we use the excuse of being honest and having the need to vent. Our reminder should be about the power in our words and the life and death that exists in our tongue (Proverbs 18:21).
Since we are convinced of the life giving power within our mouths, let us use our words to speak life, and call those things which be not as though they were” (Romans 4:17). This principle is not living in denial and ignoring that challenges exists. Sometimes we do have to speak the truth in love in order to correct and edify. But we must always bear in mind, the motivation behind our words and use our words to speak life.
A parent with a wayward child can complain about their child’s behaviour, or confess the promises of God over them. Wives and husbands should look for the good in their spouses and speak what God promises concerning them. If we truly recognise how much power is stored in our words, we would not use them loosely. We pray about each other’s weaknesses and trust God to complete the work in us and in others.